{"id":3268,"date":"2013-06-03T23:30:54","date_gmt":"2013-06-03T22:30:54","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/duncanshelley.com\/?p=3268"},"modified":"2013-06-03T23:30:54","modified_gmt":"2013-06-03T22:30:54","slug":"megitelni-valakit","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/duncanshelley.com\/en\/megitelni-valakit\/","title":{"rendered":"Meg\u00edt\u00e9lni valakit"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Vajon ki nyert?<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Egy kicsit anyaggy\u0171jt\u00e9s is ez a cikk, \u00fagyhogy k\u00f6sz\u00f6n\u00f6m mindenkinek a seg\u00edts\u00e9get, aki \u00edr hozz\u00e1 kommentet.<\/p>\n

Ha j\u00f3l eml\u00e9kszem, Gogol mondta a k\u00f6vetkez\u0151t: \u201eSz\u00e1mtalanszor hallottam, amint valaki arr\u00f3l panaszkodik, hogy csal\u00f3dott az emberekben, de olyat m\u00e9g nem hallottam, aki arr\u00f3l panaszkodott, hogy csal\u00f3dott az emberismetret\u00e9ben.”<\/p>\n

B\u00e1rmilyen (j\u00f3 \u00e9s rossz \u00e9rtelemben vett) emberi j\u00e1tszm\u00e1r\u00f3l van sz\u00f3, m\u00e1sok meg\u00edt\u00e9l\u00e9se alapvet\u0151 fontoss\u00e1g\u00fa. \u00c9n meg\u00edt\u00e9lem a t\u00f6bbieket, a t\u00f6bbiek meg\u00edt\u00e9lnek engem. Kialakul egy v\u00e9leked\u00e9s a m\u00e1sikr\u00f3l, valami alapj\u00e1n. Na de mi alapj\u00e1n?<\/p>\n

Ahogyan \u00e9n l\u00e1tom, m\u00e1sok meg\u00edt\u00e9l\u00e9se azt jelenti, hogy mi magunk, k\u00e9pzeletben, felruh\u00e1zunk embereket k\u00fcl\u00f6nf\u00e9le tulajdons\u00e1gokkal, \u00e9s amit eredm\u00e9nyk\u00e9nt kapunk, azt szeretj\u00fck, vagy nem szeretj\u00fck.<\/p>\n

Felruh\u00e1zzuk \u2013 ez a kulcssz\u00f3.<\/p>\n

Nem a val\u00f3s\u00e1g talaj\u00e1n \u00e1llunk, ezt \u00e9szre kell venn\u00fcnk.<\/p>\n

K\u00f6r\u00fclbel\u00fcl egy \u00e9vvel ezel\u0151tt dolgoztam egy fick\u00f3val. Rengeteget besz\u00e9lgett\u00fcnk, terveket sz\u0151tt\u00fcnk. Id\u0151vel eljutottunk arra a pontra, hogy t\u00e9nylegesen el kellett kezdeni dolgozni, azaz val\u00f3s\u00e1got, cselekv\u00e9st, tetteket, teljes\u00edtm\u00e9nyt tenni a szavak m\u00f6g\u00e9. \u00c9n odatettem mindent, amit \u00edg\u00e9rtem, \u0151 meg nem tette oda, amit \u00edg\u00e9rt. Kezdetben nagyon j\u00f3 k\u00e9p alakult ki bennem az illet\u0151r\u0151l, nagymen\u0151nek, fenegyereknek tartottam, \u00f6r\u00fcltem, hogy ismerem. Id\u0151vel ez a k\u00e9p \u00f6sszet\u00f6rt, az \u00faj k\u00e9p pedig egy vesztes, l\u00fazer, csal\u00f3 valakit mutatott.<\/p>\n

\u00dagy t\u00edz \u00e9vvel ezel\u0151tt dolgoztam egy fick\u00f3val. Eleinte fantasztikus embernek tartottam, nagymen\u0151, sikeres, milli\u00e1rdos, be\u00e9rkezett valakinek. J\u00f3kat besz\u00e9lgett\u00fcnk, tervezgett\u00fcnk, nagy c\u00e9lokat t\u0171zt\u00fcnk ki. Azut\u00e1n elkezd\u0151d\u00f6tt a munka f\u00e1zisa. Dolgozni kellett, minden nap, konkr\u00e9t l\u00e9p\u00e9seket tenni az adott c\u00e9l fel\u00e9. \u00c9s az a fick\u00f3, aki kor\u00e1bban hatalmasnak t\u0171nt, egyre kisebbnek l\u00e1tszott, m\u00edg v\u00e9g\u00fcl a r\u00f3la bennem kialakul\u00f3 k\u00e9p az ellenkez\u0151j\u00e9re fordult, \u00e9s egy \u00fcgyesked\u0151 senkinek l\u00e1ttam, aki a dum\u00e1l\u00e1son k\u00edv\u00fcl semmire nem k\u00e9pes.<\/p>\n

Az \u00e9n \u00e9letemben \u00e1ltal\u00e1ban pozit\u00edvr\u00f3l indult a benyom\u00e1s, \u00e9s abb\u00f3l lett negat\u00edv. Volt ford\u00edtva is, de az a ritk\u00e1bb. Ismertem olyan n\u0151t, akit kezdetben \u00fcresfej\u0171, bugyuta cicabab\u00e1nak tartottam, \u00e9s csak apr\u00e1nk\u00e9nt vettem \u00e9szre, hogy mennyire j\u00f3zan gondolkod\u00e1s\u00fa, filozofikus, m\u0171velt \u00e9s okos. Tizen\u00e9vesen visszatasz\u00edt\u00f3nak, aljasnak, g\u00e1tl\u00e1stalannak tartottam az egyik finoman sz\u00f3lva rosszarc\u00fa oszt\u00e1lyt\u00e1rsamat, \u00e1m amikor baj lett, csak \u0151 nem hagyott cserben.<\/p>\n

Felruh\u00e1zzuk az embereket elk\u00e9pzelt tulajdons\u00e1gokkal. Az ember a k\u00e9p alatt ritk\u00e1n v\u00e1ltozik, ink\u00e1bb a k\u00e9p alakul \u00e1t \u2013 ez pedig azt jelenti, hogy m\u00e1s tulajdons\u00e1gokkal ruh\u00e1zzuk fel, m\u00e1s tulajdons\u00e1gokat tulajdon\u00edtunk neki, mint kor\u00e1bban.<\/p>\n

N\u00e9gy k\u00e9rd\u00e9sem van hozz\u00e1tok.<\/p>\n

1. N\u00e1latok \u00e1ltal\u00e1ban pozit\u00edvr\u00f3l fordul \u00e1t negat\u00edvba a k\u00e9p, vagy negat\u00edvb\u00f3l pozit\u00edvba?<\/p>\n

2. Milyen tapasztalatok v\u00e1ltoztatnak a k\u00e9pen?<\/p>\n

3. Vajon mekkora jelent\u0151s\u00e9ge van \u00e9let\u00fcnkben annak, hogy k\u00e9pzeletben k\u00fcl\u00f6nf\u00e9le tulajdons\u00e1gokat tulajdon\u00edtunk az embereknek? H\u00e1ny embernek tulajdon\u00edtunk hatalmat, befoly\u00e1st, sikert, \u00e9szt, b\u00f6lcsess\u00e9get, szakmai hozz\u00e1\u00e9rt\u00e9st, vagy \u00e9pp ezek ellenkez\u0151j\u00e9t, mik\u00f6zben a val\u00f3s\u00e1g eg\u00e9szen m\u00e1s?<\/p>\n

4. Mi t\u00f6rt\u00e9nne, ha t\u00f6bb\u00e9 nem ruh\u00e1zn\u00e1nk fel senkit semmilyen tulajdons\u00e1ggal?<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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