{"id":2576,"date":"2012-11-25T08:22:44","date_gmt":"2012-11-25T07:22:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/duncanshelley.com\/?p=2576"},"modified":"2023-05-16T23:28:38","modified_gmt":"2023-05-16T21:28:38","slug":"onkent-a-pokolba","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/duncanshelley.com\/en\/onkent-a-pokolba\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00d6nk\u00e9nt a pokolba"},"content":{"rendered":"

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K\u00e9rsz egyet? Szereted?<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Van egy r\u00e9gi vicc, mely szerint t\u00f6k\u00e9letes p\u00e1rkapcsolat csak egy mazochista \u00e9s egy szadista k\u00f6z\u00f6tt lehets\u00e9ges.<\/p>\n

\u2013 \u00dcss\u00e9l!<\/p>\n

\u2013 Nem!<\/p>\n

\u2013 De \u00fcss\u00e9l!<\/p>\n

\u2013 Neeeem!<\/p>\n

\u2013 K\u00f6ny\u00f6rg\u00f6m, \u00fcss\u00e9l!<\/p>\n

\u2013 Az\u00e9rt se \u00fct\u00f6k! Szenvedj, te rohad\u00e9k!<\/p>\n

A vicc po\u00e9n, de csak egy vicc. A val\u00f3s\u00e1g nagyon k\u00f6zel \u00e1ll hozz\u00e1, de nem pont \u00edgy m\u0171k\u00f6dik: a val\u00f3s\u00e1gban \u00fctnek, k\u00e9zzel, sz\u00edjjal, gyakran csak szavakkal. \u00c9s t\u0171rik.<\/p>\n

Nagyon r\u00e9g\u00f3ta meggy\u0151z\u0151d\u00e9sem, hogy az emberek t\u00f6bbs\u00e9ge eg\u00e9sz egyszer\u0171en mazochista. F\u0151leg a n\u0151k. T\u0171rik azt, ami nem j\u00f3, ami f\u00e1j, amit\u0151l szenvednek. T\u0171rik, mintha \u00e9lvezn\u00e9k. \u00c9s k\u00f6zben t\u00f6nkremennek, emberileg, \u00e9rzelmileg, testileg.<\/p>\n

Soha \u00e9letemben nem l\u00e1ttam, nem hallottam olyan p\u00e1rkapcsolatr\u00f3l, amit irigyeltem volna, amit mintak\u00e9nt tekintettem volna a magam sz\u00e1m\u00e1ra. Ezzel senkit sem szeretn\u00e9k megb\u00e1ntani, a kijelent\u00e9sben n\u00e9mi egy\u00e9ni \u00edzl\u00e9s is megjelenik.<\/p>\n

A legt\u00f6bb ember, aki valaha is a k\u00f6rnyezetemben \u00e9lt, kifejezetten pokoli kapcsolatban t\u00f6lt\u00f6tte az idej\u00e9t. Fenyeget\u0151z\u00e9s, v\u00e9rl\u00e1z\u00edt\u00f3 besz\u00f3l\u00e1sok, aljas h\u00faz\u00e1sok, hazudoz\u00e1s, h\u0171tlens\u00e9g, zsarol\u00e1s, tettlegess\u00e9g. \u00c9s t\u0171rt\u00e9k. Mintha \u00e9lvezt\u00e9k volna.<\/p>\n

A t\u00f6rv\u00e9nyi helyzet is saj\u00e1tos. Az embereket t\u00f6bbnyire nem er\u0151szakkal, hanem szavakkal, apr\u00f3 szem\u00e9tked\u00e9sekkel k\u00e9sz\u00edtik ki \u00e9s teszik t\u00f6nkre. Ilyen esetekben jogorvoslat nincs. Az \u00e1ldozat csak f\u0151 a lev\u00e9ben, ha visszav\u00e1g, les\u00fcllyed b\u00e1ntalmaz\u00f3ja szintj\u00e9re, m\u00e9g ink\u00e1bb r\u00e9szese lesz egy j\u00e1tszm\u00e1nak, ami undor\u00edt\u00f3 \u00e9s \u00e9rtelmetlen. Ha pedig nem b\u00edrja tov\u00e1bb, \u00e9s egyszer csak t\u00falcsordul a poh\u00e1r, m\u00e9g a v\u00e9g\u00e9n \u0151 ker\u00fcl b\u00f6rt\u00f6nbe. T\u00edz \u00e9ven \u00e1t tart\u00f3 sz\u00fcntelen, sz\u00e1nd\u00e9kos stresszel\u00e9s nem nyom semmit sem a latba a t\u00f6rv\u00e9ny szerint.<\/p>\n

Az emberek t\u00f6bbs\u00e9ge mazochista, f\u0151leg a n\u0151k. Hihetetlen \u00e9s \u00e9rthetetlen, hogy mit t\u0171rnek el. Gyerekkoromt\u00f3l fogva mindig volt k\u00f6r\u00fcl\u00f6ttem n\u00e9h\u00e1ny p\u00e9lda az \u00f6nk\u00e9nt v\u00e1llalt pokolra. Most is van.<\/p>\n

Amikor a remek Kate Brooks felvetette, hogy az Amer \u00e9s a tit\u00e1nok ut\u00e1n \u00fajra \u00edrjunk k\u00f6z\u00f6sen, \u00e9s \u00e9ppen a p\u00e1rkapcsolatokr\u00f3l, az \u00f6nk\u00e9nt v\u00e1llalt pokolr\u00f3l, a mazochizmusr\u00f3l, ezek h\u00e1tter\u00e9r\u0151l \u00e9s a megold\u00e1sr\u00f3l, term\u00e9szetesen lecsaptam a lehet\u0151s\u00e9gre.<\/p>\n

\u00cdgy sz\u00fcletett meg az Amer \u00e9s a l\u00e1thatatlan bilincs<\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/a>, amely november 26-\u00e1n j\u00f6n ki a nyomd\u00e1b\u00f3l. Az eddigi olvas\u00f3k k\u00f6z\u00fcl k\u00e9t h\u00f6lgyem\u00e9nynek m\u00e1r jobb\u00e1 tette az \u00e9let\u00e9t, ennyire hat\u00e1sos. Bizony\u00e1ra \u00e9pp emiatt lesznek, akik nagyon fogj\u00e1k szeretni, \u00e9s lesznek, akik ut\u00e1lj\u00e1k majd.<\/p>\n

Itt beleolvashattok a k\u00f6nyvbe: amer_es_a_lathatatlan_bilincs_reszlet <\/strong><\/span><\/span>.<\/p>\n

Szerintetek mi\u00e9rt van ennyi mazochista? Az emberek mi\u00e9rt t\u0171rnek? Milyen az ide\u00e1lis p\u00e1rkapcsolat? Volt m\u00e1r ilyenben r\u00e9szetek?<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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